Anxiety disorders have become a common issue in this modern way of living affecting millions of people all around the world. In the USA 18.1% (40 million) of the adult population is being affected by its negative effects every year.
Most common anxiety disorders are social anxiety disorder, and posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD). They can be caused by traumatic events, anxiety-causing foods, brain chemistry, personality disorders, etc.
However, aside these generalized anxiety disorders people can suffer from narcissistic abuse. This condition is rarely discussed, but it should not be neglected as it represents the occurrence of mental and physical harm inflicted by severely self-centered people. These people have high opinion of themselves and desperately need the admiration from others, but not showing any empathy towards other people.
They easily establish relation with other people as they can be very charming in the beginning, but later on they show their real face. They turn to be demanding, manipulative making their close ones neglected, anxious, unworthy to love, and guilt-tripped.
Many studies have been conducted on this issue determining the link between abuse in adulthood and the occurrence of many physical and mental health issues, including anxiety. However, the analyses of the scientists went even further back to childhood determining that the narcissistic abuse from childhood could contribute to the formation of anxiety disorders. These disorders will negatively affect the physical and mental health.
Children have a tendency to internalize and externalize their hurt feelings after being subjected to bullying behavior such as verbal abuse, threats from narcissistic parents or traumatic physical abuse. They easily succumb to anxiety and depression developing low self-esteem, and thus liable to PTSD.
In addition to this, they can even become aggressive, delinquent, act out and that in time it may lead to substance abuse, both in youth and adult life.
People with narcissistic character features are very difficult to handle and being in a relationship with them is very unhealthy. Living with a person that emotionally or mentally abuses you can bring to you only health issues. These people that have to live with a person with narcissistic abuse are constantly told that he or she is the problem and that their normal responding and behaviors towards this issue is the reason for its occurrence which makes their mind to go overdrive. As a result of that the body will start to react in many ways and the distinction between the rational and the irrational will get blurred.
Narcissistic abusers are toxic people that on purpose abuse others by telling them that they are somehow socially, emotionally, and intellectually substandard. They are skillful manipulators that can even convince the victim that he or she is the actual abuser. Plus, they have a built self-defense when being confronted that they are the abusers by playing the victim themselves.
People with this disorder commonly attack the good people and the ones who are compassionate and empathic and still believe in the good nature of humankind. Once they become the victims of such abusers due to their good nature they can become easily prone to mental and physical health issues.
The worst case scenario is when a person with narcissistic abuse is a family member and the only way out from this unhealthy relationship is for the victim to move out. However, the victims are not completely saved as they will become prone to mental disorders later in life and the experienced trauma may impede in future the establishment of a healthy relationship.
You may think that you can easily spot a narcissistic abuser among people, but that is not always the case thanks to their manipulative skills. Moreover, the people who are subjected to such behavior do not always show the signs as they are constantly being emotionally manipulated and live in denial due to self-victimization.
How a narcissistic abuser acts?
- The abuser can make you feel incompetent and doubt yourself.
- He or she constantly lies and cheats, and even spreads gossips and lies about you.
- The abuser criticizes harshly and goes even further by making love or offers friendship as a conditional reward that will control your behavior.
- He or she neglects and does not appreciate the given love, friendship, and respect.
- His intention is to make you dependent on him and shows affection of love only when you act according to his wishes.
- This person verbally or physically belittles or bullies you.
- He takes advantage of you for his personal gain and keeps you isolated from friends or family.
How to protect yourself from such behaviour?
- Break any relations for good with the abuser and if that is not possible ignore him.
- It is not your fault as someone tries to abuse you, just have a positive attitude.
- If you have experienced a severe case of abuse seek for professional help to prevent the development of mental traumas.
- If you are in immediate physical or emotional danger, make sure to contact the police, a helpline, a medical professional, or a local shelter for victims of abuse.
Anxiety is not a severe mental condition; it can be treated easily by a combining psychotherapy and medication. Nonetheless, there are alternative tips that can help in its treatment.
How to treat anxiety?
- Follow a healthy and balanced diet, high in anti-anxiety foods, and avoid sugary and processed foods.
- Exercise on regular basis, at least 30 minutes a day.
- You can opt for meditation, or yoga.
- Spend quality time with your friends and family.
- Follow an efficient schedule and organize your time.
- Avoid alcohol and drugs.
- Sleep at least 7 hours every night.
It is of great importance to recognize that you have an issue with anxiety and once acknowledging it you are already once step further in solving it. It will help you to quickly move on from the painful experiences and thus make a way for a fulfilling and happy life.