Even if you think that one child is enough in life, you are so wrong; the bond that a child can develop with a sibling is unique and cannot be replaced with a friendship. Yes, it is true that siblings fight and argue, but in that arguing they develop unbreakable bond that stays for a lifetime.
In fact, science proves that fighting and arguing with your siblings makes you a better person.
Benefits of Growing Up with Siblings
Experts have agreed that having a sibling really matters in life and it is of great value.
According to a conducted study, involving 395 families with more than one child, having a sister (younger or older) helps adolescents to deal with harmful adopting behaviors, like hesitance and fearfulness.
The leader of this study Laura Padilla-Walker, a professor at Brigham Young University, looked at these families who had at least one adolescent in the age of 10 to 14. She and her team gathered valuable data about the relationships within the family, and their conclusion was that all that fighting between siblings offers an opportunity for children to learn how to make up and to regain control of their emotions.
Another expert, Padilla-Walker, stated the following: “Even after you account for parents’ influence, siblings do matter in unique ways. They give kids something that parents don’t.”
- Your sister teaches you how to deal with conflict and communicate
Siblings have a tendency to fight which is quite normal considering the fact that they live in close quarters. All those emotions and flaring teaches children how to properly react in conflict situations. According to Padilla-Walker, the positive side of these arguments is giving children a chance to regain control of their emotions and skills and at the same learning how to make up.
If that was not the case, then a conflict situation will result in negative externalizing behavior, including breaking of the rules, lashing out, or yelling. This negative internalizing and externalizing behaviors in adulthood can result in delinquency or into bullying or more serious altercations like law-breaking, etc.
Externalizing behaviors impact the surrounding and the people in it, and because of that they should be approached with more attention. On the other hand, if there is a sibling relationship in the family, these behaviors will get subdued as it shows a proper way how to interact with other people at an early age.
- Your sister gives you confidence, love, companionship and so much more
The presence of sibling in the child’s life will teach it about the outside world and about itself as well. In the adolescence period which is the most difficult one while growing up, children that do not have a brother or sister feel alone and do not value themselves enough.
According to a performed study by Padilla-Walker the negative internalizing behaviors will get prevented by growing up with a sister. The internalizing behaviors are manifested by feelings of guilt, loneliness, being unloved, fearful and less self-conscious. The inward integrity gets disturbed that makes some of the children to eat too much or too little. These children are prone to self-harm, abuse of substances, and depression. Such behaviors are trigger points of serious issues such as obesity, anorexia, bulimia, alcoholism, or drug addiction having their peak in the middle age provided that they are not addressed properly.
Padilla-Walker claims that the presence of a sister can prevent and help with these issues. The child can easily cope with these issues and prevent their appearance thanks to its sister who is always there for him.
- Siblings make you a better person
As per the obtained results of the Padilla-Walker’s study, siblings promote good performances in children, such as helping the neighbors or standing up for other children. Loving siblings stimulate charitable attitudes more than loving parents. Conclusively, the results showed that the relation between sibling affection and good performances was twice as strong as that of parenting and good performances.
Thanks to the growing up with siblings you will become a better person and not only to yourself but as well as towards your relatives and other people in general.