Mothers are very important in children’s life and because of that we should do our best to take good care of them. Mom-burnout is very common in the past decade as mothers are multi-task persons doing everything at once and dealing with everything at once. Burnout happens when someone is physically, emotionally, and mentally exhausted as a result of excessive and prolonged stress.
Mothers are mostly affected by burnout as they are the ones who need to perform many tasks during the day, and when one of the children gets sick everything becomes even more stressful since things must be finished during the day. The whole household depends on them aside the job post and responsibilities towards the spouse and children. Plus, they put on themselves extra pressure believing that they need to do and finish everything in time and without any mistake.
In the midst of all these responsibilities, mothers do not have time for themselves, and if so, they would rather finish something for their close ones, than for themselves.
We do not want to neglect the fact that fathers can also experience burnout, and as such we should try to prevent it.
In this article we shall focus on mothers who must have their own “me time” in order to function accordingly making them better for the whole family. They should try their best to find those 5 minutes for themselves in a day, or simply choose a day in the month that it will be all about them.
Mom “Me time” – A Way for Better Mental, Emotional and Physical Health
Moms have a tendency to be Super Moms, but most of them do have partners who are the fathers of their children, so they can pop up in the growing part of the children. Self-care means finding the balance of responsibilities with your partner so that both of them have time for themselves. You will not be judged if you ask for help from your partner and that is much better than feeling burned out most of the time.
Childcare should be split between parents, and each parent has the right to ask for a help from the other partner so that all the current responsibilities are properly addressed. If one of the parents is not willing to take part in the responsibilities, then they are dealing with a serious issue that should not be neglected.
Many women deal with this issue every day, Genevieve Shaw Brown, a reporter for ABC News in New York and a mom of three states:
“You can’t just think, ‘Someday soon I’m going to take a day for myself. We have to prioritize the same as we would prioritize things for our kids. We’d never miss an appointment for our kids because they are important. Equally important is prioritizing yourself and your own needs.”
For some mothers the self-care is a selfish thing making them even more nervous and anxious as they believe that while resting they are actually doing nothing. During that period they believe that they could finish more tasks, than spending the precious time for relaxing.
Here it is how the director of the Women’s Mental Health Program at MedStar Georgetown University Hospital, Aimee Danielson addresses this issue:
“The question I ask moms is, ‘If you were choosing a child-care provider, and you had a choice between someone who seemed stressed, tired, and overwhelmed versus someone who seemed rested, contented, happy and healthy, who would you want for your kids? If you can’t do it for yourself, do it for your kids.”
Having a family is very fulfilling, but it is not an easy task, especially for new parents who cannot get enough sleep. Therefore, self-care is something they should do for sure, and can be also done in pair like having a cup of coffee at the café, visiting yoga classes or the hair salon, and so on.
You should choose the method that most suits you and offers you relaxation of the body and mind. You are a parent that needs to take good care of yourself if not for you then for your children as satisfied parent is the best parent.
Check the methods below and decide which is the best one for you:
Listen to your favorite piece of music
Write or sing
Color or paint
Take a walk
Enjoy the sun
Visit yoga classes
Go to the museum
Talk with a friend
Turn off the devices
Take a deep breath
Have a manicure or pedicure treatment
Consume healthy foods
Read a new book
Ask for professional help
Go to bed early
Have a date with your loved one
The Benefits of Having a Massage
This method is well-known for relaxation, stress reduction, and pain relief. Massage is the right treatment for anyone suffering from stress, anxiety, and depression. It calms down the body by stimulating the parasympathetic nervous system. Plus, it can boost the immune system, which function gets lower when the body is under stress.
As per conducted study, released in Depress Anxiety, patients who suffer from anxiety were receiving massages for four months, and the positive results were almost immediate. After 9- month period the reductions in anxiety were significant,
This has been confirmed by many patients struggling with depression, stress, asthma, back pain, arthritis, and multiple sclerosis.
Moms who tend to suffer from burnout can gain many benefits from having a massage. Massaging can help those struggling mothers with postpartum depression and help with pain relief; swelling, hormone regulation, and can even improve breastfeeding. A massage therapist specialized for prenatal, perinatal, and postpartum women can offer an advanced massage therapy that will help your body to heal faster and restore its state as before the pregnancy.
Stress can lead to irritability, insomnia, poor eating habits, and panic attacks that will negatively impact your well-being. If you prolong your self-care and ignore the symptoms of these conditions they will not go away by themselves. You need to find a way how to release your body from stress and a good massage can offer exactly that. It will make you happy and healthy, and at the same time you will take good care of your body and soul. It can fight off stress and thus helping you in becoming that Super Mom that every mother tries to be.
However, there are different kinds of massages and it does not mean that you should like all, check the types below and opt for the one that most suits you.
Kinds of Massage
Chair massage is great for beginners as it is quick and focuses on the neck, shoulders and back.
Swedish massage alleviates the tension and knots and like the previous one it is good for beginners.
Reflexology helps in restoring energy levels and offers the needed relaxation.
Aromatherapy will help you to alleviate the pain and tension and as well as offer emotional healing and better mood.
Hot stone massage alleviates tension and muscle pain.
Shiatsu massage relieves muscle tension and anxiety thus being the best one for reaching physical and emotion tranquility.
Deep tissue massage is applied with more pressure and because of that it is helpful for chronic muscle problems.
Sports massage is the most suitable one for people who are active in sport life and for the ones who are more susceptible to injuries.
Trigger point massage just like the sports massage is good for people who are prone to injuries, chronic pain, or suffer from specific issues or conditions.
Thai massage enhances body’s energy levels, circulation and flexibility as it involves a form of yoga stretching.
Prenatal massage is most suitable for pregnant women helping them in reducing stress, body aches, and muscle tension
Couple’s massage is a nice way to make your relationship with your partner stronger, or you can have it with your friend, or family member.
We can conclude that moms are more prone to burnout, but it is good to know that it is preventable if you apply some self-care. There is nothing to be ashamed of if you need help, especially if there is a need of a professional one. You need to feel good so that you can be a good mom and partner. Your bad mood mostly affects your children and because of that find a way how to relax yourself from time to time.