Family is very important in your life and as well as in the lives of your children. There is nothing better when aside the regular school friends your children have cousins with whom they can be honest as they know that family is different. It is nice to know that you have a cousin that will keep your back.
The Sunday dinners at the house of grandmothers can be really nice if it is completed with the presence of some cousins so that you have someone to play with. Parents can indulge themselves in having adult conversations about the politics, economics, family issue, or whatsoever and their children will be also satisfied having someone with whom they can share their interests.
If you have only one child, then he or she will highly appreciate the presence of cousins into its life making them the ideal replacement for having a sibling.
Marion C. Garretty said: “A cousin is a little bit of childhood that can never be lost”.
Benefits of Your Child Having a Cousin
In most cases parents wait for awhile before having their next child, sometimes is a year or two or even more. It would be wonderful for your child to have a cousin that is near his age so that it has a companion since the moment is born aside the stuffed animal in its bed.
- Cousin is a Combo of Family and Friends
During family gatherings your child will be pleased with the idea to meet its cousins. For the children these dinners are boring and whenever they have a chance they would sneak out from the room and play with their cousins. Children easily confide themselves with a friend rather than with a parent or sibling. Having a cousin would be ideal as then the child will confide in this close relative which is better than to some friend. Cousins can fight just like siblings, but also quickly make up making their bond stronger than before.
- Learning of Family Values
The cousins will offer the sense of family in children and that will make your children to want a family like that when he or she is an adult. Your child will for sure try to keep a close relationship with every member of their extended family when it gets old enough.
The relations between cousins provide the valuable support system present for all of them. For instance, if your child is being bullied in school the cousin will be there to protect him and vice versa. It is nice to have a big “bro” in your school that is family.
During family reunions cousins make inside jokes and they are known only to themselves. There is nothing better when children laugh about something that they have by themselves created.
In the case of cousins you will feel safe when your child plays with them. There is no need for extra check-up as it is most likely that you have been in the delivery room when your nephew was being born.
Sleepovers will not be an issue for you anymore as in this case you know that your child goes at your sister’s or brother’s house. When your child asks you about a sleepover at friend’s house in your head ran some crazy ideas prior allowing it to stay. The sleep over of your child now is fun and a real night off for you and your partner. You are sure that your sibling will take care of your child as your own and you can have a relaxing night off.
The first day at school will not be stressful if you know that your nephew or niece is also there. At least you will know that there is someone there to check up on your child especially during lunchtime. Your child in the first days will not wonder where to sit as there will be always once sit free and available for him with friendly faces.
The children learn the best when they have a real example in front of them, and there is nothing more real than having an older cousin. Just by being in the company of his cousin the child learns a lot as he has a vivid example in front of him. Since early age they learn how to share things and when the second child comes your child will for sure share his toys and clothes without problem with the new family member.
Jim Gaffigan said:
“No matter how you feel about your extended family or family gatherings, you will be attending. This is because now the ultimate reason for attending family gatherings is for your children to have the time of their lives with their cousins. Little kids love their cousins. I’m not being cute or exaggerating here. Cousins are like celebs for little kids. If little kids had a People magazine, cousins would be on the cover. Cousins are barometers of how much fun a family get-together will be. Are the cousins going to be there? Fun!”
Therefore, moms and dads do not left out the extended family, stay in touch and visit each other as much as possible. The cousins are more than playmates for your children; they are in fact genetically related to your children. They are the “special friends from the same family tree.”