For a better relationship and happy marital life the husband should keep his wife happy. The researchers at the Rutgers University conducted a study that showed that the happiness of the wife is much more important than her husband’s in order to sustain a long relationship.
Deborah Carr, professor of sociology at Rutgers, stated the following:
“I think it comes down to the fact that when a wife is satisfied with the marriage she tends to do a lot more for her husband, which has a positive effect on his life. “
The researchers for the purposes of this study interviewed 394 older couples married for an average of 39 years. The participants were asked questions whether they argued, appreciated or irritated each other. The answers need to be honest and with real display of their feelings.
These couples had an obligation to keep specific diaries and write down their thoughts with self-assessing their own happiness based on the previous 24 hours. The results showed that the couples had a general overall higher life satisfaction rating than average, and men rated their satisfaction a bit higher than women. But, in terms of health of the other partner, the wives became substantially unhappy when their spouses got sick, but the husbands did not share the same feelings.
Deborah Carr comments on this: “We know that when a partner is sick it is the wife that often does the caregiving which can be a stressful experience. But often when a woman gets sick it is not her husband she relies on but her daughter.”
This study revealed that a large part of the women in these long-term marriages rated their own happiness lower than their spouses; however, the ladies that were happier were more willing to help their husbands thus positively affecting their life.
“For both spouses being in a better-rated marriage was linked to greater life satisfaction and happiness.”
Therefore, the happier a wife is in the relationship, the happier her husband is with his life no matter of what he feels or even thinks about the relationship itself.
Peace Quarters continues:
“Carr also points to the fact that husbands tend to be less vocal in marriage and because of this, wives might not always notice their husband’s dissatisfaction in marriage. This is another helpful piece of research that could be beneficial for wives so they can encourage their husbands to open up more about concerns and issues within a marriage.”
In order to have a happy and fulfilling relationship one should open up and display his or hers feelings with the partner. This is a crucial factor for happiness and thus developing stronger bond and union.